Solitude Is No Longer About Being Alone
Solitude used to be a place. Now it’s a practice.
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The room is quiet, but my mind isn’t.
I spend most of my days alone — working, thinking, creating — yet I rarely feel the calm and clarity that solitude is supposed to bring. The silence of modern life hums with hidden noise: notifications, messages, other people’s thoughts bleeding through the glass of every screen.
Solitude used to mean physical space. The poet’s cabin, the monk’s quarters, the artist’s retreat — all places where you could get a bit of distance from society. You stepped away from the world so your inner voice could grow louder.
But today, even though we’re alone more than ever, the world follows us home. I’m surrounded all the time, not by physical noise, but by digital noise. Emails, messages, and algorithmic feeds give me hundreds of daily invitations to react. Every time I pick up my phone or open a browser tab, someone is pitching me something: an idea, a belief, a product, a way I should be. My mind is rarely empty enough for my own thoughts to find their way to the surface.
I’ve come to realize that modern solitude has inverted: being alone no longer guarantees being with yourself.
The illusion of digital solitude
Remote work and social media have merged our public and private selves into a single, continuous feed. We are technically alone but ambiently social, perpetually connected to a world that craves our attention. And that ambient sociality eats away at the kind of stillness creative work requires.
What older generations of artists had, even amid their struggles, was psychic space. When they closed the door, the world stayed outside. Today, the world slips in through the cracks of every device we own.
Solitude used to describe a physical environment. Now it describes a mental discipline.
It’s the deliberate act of choosing not to fill every quiet moment with someone else’s noise.
Our limited mental bandwidth
Our brains aren’t built to absorb the thoughts of thousands of strangers per day.
Human beings evolved to handle roughly the social bandwidth of a small tribe, maybe a few dozen or hundred people whose names and faces we could remember. Online, that number stretches to infinity. The result isn’t just more connection; it’s less bandwidth for our own thoughts and the world we’re present in.
We become mentally crowded even when we’re physically alone.
And when the bandwidth of your attention is saturated, creativity has nowhere to surface. You can’t incubate ideas, you can’t connect the dots on a novel insight, you can’t listen inwardly long enough for the signal to emerge from the noise.
When solitude returns
Ironically, the times I’ve felt the most solitude this year were when I was surrounded by people in real life. Dinner with friends. A walk with my girlfriend. A weekend with family.
Those moments feel quiet in a way my “alone” time often doesn’t. The difference isn’t the number of people around me; it’s the number of subjects pulling on my focus. A few embodied humans are far less taxing on my attention than a thousand disembodied voices on a screen.
When I’m truly present with others, the digital world disappears, and my headspace opens back up. The noise floor drops, the signal returns, and I can hear myself think again.
Redefining good solitude
Good solitude today isn’t about isolation, but rather presence.
It’s the state where your mental bandwidth is your own — not rented out to feeds, alerts, or the constant chatter of the online crowd.
And for modern creators, reclaiming that solitude may be the most urgent creative act of all. Because without space to be, there will be no space to make.
Until next time,
🎯 Try this
Spend one day this week in intentional solitude, but do it around others.
The goal isn’t to be alone. It’s to create mental spaciousness.
Turn off your devices. Stay fully present with whoever you’re with — talking, walking, eating, or simply sitting together. Ignore everything outside your immediate surroundings.
Notice how your thoughts feel. They might be calmer, less reactive, more your own. That’s the signal you’re trying to preserve.
📚 Go deeper
The Art of Stillness by Pico Iyer (TED Talk) — A meditation on slowing down and finding inner quiet in a restless world.
The Lost Art of Solitude by Leo Babauta (Zen Habits) — A reflection on how quiet time alone can help us reconnect with ourselves, cultivate mindfulness, and rediscover clarity amid digital distraction.
Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport — A guide to reclaiming focus and intentionality in a hyperconnected world, arguing that true creativity and contentment require periods of deliberate disconnection.
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This resonated so deeply! Thank you for sharing 🙏